New York Times July 9 2009

© Imelda Maurer, cdp July 14, 2009
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On July 9th there was a lead article in the New York Times by Jane Gross entitled, “Sisters Face Death with Dignity and Reverence.” I have attempted a blog entry about this outstanding article twice since I read the article but the writing has always fallen flat.

Immediately after reading the article online, I called the Sisters of St. Joseph of Rochester, New York to express my gratitude to Sister Mary Lou Mitchell, President, who was quoted in the article. In addition to the print article, there is a slide show on the website which shows in the course of its own story Sister Mary Lou in a couple of pictures expressing warmth, affection and compassion to her elderly Sisters. I did not sense that this woman in congregational leadership was ‘panning for the camera.’ I sensed a woman familiar with and comfortable with expressing those human emotions with her own. A gift to her Sisters and to the world.

This morning I sent an e-mail to another Sister and I included the URL to that July 9th article. When I remembered a quotation from the article of one of the Sisters living in the retirement center, tears came to my eyes. I thought then: “This is what I should write about.”

This is the quotation: Sister Marie, a 77-year-old Sister who lives at the retirement center and who visits the community nursing home frequently is quoted as saying, “We won’t let anyone go alone on the last journey.”

These Sisters of St. Joseph companion their Sisters. These Sisters honor death as a part of living, as the doorway to the fullness of life. They live out the words of Bill Moyer: “Death must be witnessed and attended to.”

Integral to this faith-based vision is the reality that this earthly life is a gift, a precious gift. In the context of these faith values, namely, that life is a gift and that this physical life is for a limited time only, the Sisters of St. Joseph have intentionally provided an environment where life could be lived to the fullest, where appropriate services could be provided, and where these Sisters would “die with dignity and die well.” These values are expressed in an environment which intentionally promotes the services the Sisters want for their frail elderly. It is expressed in recruiting and hiring well-qualified personnel – a geriatrician-physician as the primary care provider for many of the Sisters, and a nurse practitioner on staff in the nursing home. By definition, these are professionals with pertinent and excellent knowledge and skills related to aging and the care of the aging.

A nationally known social worker, Carter Catlett Williams, in speaking of typical nursing homes, reminds us that all too often we absorb the values of our culture. Not so with these Sisters. They have consciously chosen the environment and the services which will result in a higher quality of life for their own and which will allow them a “good death” in the end, in the company of their Sisters.

I am reminded of a piece of poetry/prose that I share with the readers of this blog:


"I will not die an unlived life. I will not live in fear of falling or catching fire.

I choose to inhabit my days, to allow my living to open me, to make me less afraid, more accessible, to loosen my heart until it becomes a wing, a torch, a promise.

I choose to risk my significance; to live so that which comes to me as seed goes to the next as blossom and that which comes to me as blossom, goes on as fruit."

Dawna Markova
Author of Open Mind.

To read Jane Gross’ article, go to:

http://www.nytimes.com/2009/07/09/health/09sisters.html